desire to be well liked, to enjoy the affection of friends, to get along
easily and pleasantly with other people, is one of the fundamental
instincts in human nature. Since earliest times philosophers have taught
the basic principles of human relationship, have emphasized the qualities
that go to make up a well-liked, agreeable personality- the qualities that
mean most in association with others. There has never been a time when
kindness, unselfishness, and consideration for others were not considered
essential qualities. “A person completely wrapped up in himself makes a
small package,” says Harry E. Fosdick. One of the oldest and most
enduring rules of human relations is to do unto others, as you would
have others do unto you. It remains now, as it has been for centuries,
the most important single rule of life, the basis of all moral and ethical
principles. Emerson was merely expressing it another way when he said,
“The only way to have a friend is to be a friend.”
- The art of pleasing requires only the desire.
- I shall pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I
can do, or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do
it now. Let me not defer it nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this
- A man’s true wealth is the good he does in this world.
- Lord, make me an instrument of your peace; where there is hatred,
let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and
where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled
as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to
love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we
are pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Francis of Assisi
- To love our neighbor as yourself is such a fundamental truth for
regulating human society, that by that alone one might determine all
cases in social morality.
- You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when
you give of yourself that you truly give.
- A person completely wrapped up in himself makes a small package.
…The great day comes when a man begins to get himself off his hands.
He has lived, let us say, in a mind like a room surrounded by mirrors.
Everyway he turned he saw himself. Now, however, some of the mirrors
change to windows. He can see through them to objective outlooks that
challenge his interests. He begins to get out of himself-no longer the
prisoner of self-reflections but a free man in a world where persons,
causes, truths, and values exists, worthful for their own sakes. Thus
to pass from a mirror-mind to a mind with windows is an essential
element in the development of a real personality. Without that
experience no ever achieves a meaningful life.
- In nothing do men more nearly approach the gods than in doing good
to fellow men.
- If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.
- What you do not wish done to yourself, do not do to others.
- It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no
man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.
- I’m going your way, so let us go hand in hand. You help me and
I’ll help you. We shall not be here very long, for soon death, the
kind old nurse, will come back and rock us all to sleep. Let us help
one another while we may.
- You who are letting your friend’s heart ache for a word of
appreciation or sympathy …The time is short!
- You must forgive those who transgress against you before you can
look to forgiveness from Above.
- Life is too short to be little.
- To err is human, to forgive, divine.
- Life is short and we have not too much time for gladdening the
hearts of those who are traveling the dark way with us. Oh, be swift
to love! Make haste to be kind.
- He who has not yet forgiven an enemy has not tasted one of the most
sublime enjoyments of life.
- If we could read the secret history of our enemies we should find in
each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.
- Let me live by the side of the road and be a friend to man.
- Go often to the house of thy friends, for weeds choke the unused